Let's give diplomacy a chance and negotiate with Iran: the message of Quaker lobby day this year

Next week I am traveling to DC to take part in Quaker Lobby Day. Over 200 Quakers will descend on DC like a flock of doves and meet with as many elected officials as we can. So far, I am part of a delegation that will meet with Rep Judy Chu, and with aides at the office of Senators Feinstein and Boxer.

Our goal? To persuade our elected officials that we need to pursue robust negotiations with Iran. The hawks would like to see negotiations fail so the US will have to bully or bomb Iran into giving up its alleged nuclear aspirations. The more we bluster and bully, however, the less likely it is that Iran will let us have our way. A better way is to use diplomacy, as we did in Syria.

In order for there to be peace and stability in the Middle East, we need good relations with Iran, and vice versa. I am glad that FCNL has taken on this issue and provided talking points:

For Congress: Prevent a Nuclear-Armed Iran

For the first time in 30 years, the U.S. and Iran are engaged in robust, sustained, high-level diplomacy. U.S. diplomacy with Iran is advancing a multi-year agreement to guard against a nuclear-armed Iran and another war. Find out how Congress can support diplomacy.

Members of Congress Favor Iran Talks

The U.S.-Iran made history by taking the first concrete step to peacefully resolve the decade-long dispute over Iran's nuclear program. Congratulations to the many Members of Congress who have come out in support of this historic moment.

What Israeli, U.S. Experts Say on Iran Talks

Check out the military leaders and other U.S. and Israeli security experts from across the political spectrum who have come out in support of the historic first-step nuclear deal with Iran.

http://fcnl.org/issues/iran

I also recommend the following articles to help clarify what is happening with Iran today.

"Iranian Attitudes on Nuclear Negotiations," Ebrahim Mohseni, Nancy Gallagher, and Clay Ramsay, University of Maryland, Center for International & Security Studies,delet September 2014; http://cissm.umd.edu/papers/display.php?id=667 “Seven in ten (Iranians) say that the Iranian government’s purpose in expanding its nuclear capabilities is for peaceful nuclear energy, while one in five say it is also for developing nuclear weapons. … An overwhelming majority supports creating a Middle East nuclear free zone that includes Islamic countries and Israel, and three quarters support the goal of the NPT to eliminate all nuclear weapons. … Views of the United States, especially the U.S. government, continue to be quite negative. … President Rouhani receives very positive ratings. His foreign minister Zarif also gets positive ratings(.)”
Iran & the U.S. Are Allies Against ISIS but Aren’t Ready to Admit It Yet, J. Keating, 9/1614, 

Slate;http://www.slate.com/blogs/the_world_/2014/09/16/iran_and_the_u_s_are_allies_against_isis_but_aren_t_ready_to_admit_it_yet.html   “Last week there were media reports that Ayatollah Ali Khamenei had approved cooperation with the United States in the name of fighting ISIS. … Iran (and to a less clear extent Syria) is already a de facto ally of the U.S. and Europe in this mission. The efforts of Iran and the U.S. have been complementary, even if they weren’t coordinated. … Washington and Tehran are on the same team in Iraq—things are a bit more complicated in Syria—but neither government seems ready to admit it yet. At a certain point, the military forces battling the same enemy in the field might start to wonder how long it will take the politicians giving them orders to get on the same page.” 

Iran's Rouhani, UK's Cameron have historic, 'constructive' meeting, Greg Botelho & Dana Ford, CNN, Sept. 25, 2014;http://www.cnn.com/2014/09/24/world/meast/iran-rouhani/   Iran President tweets on "1 hour of constructive & pragmatic dialogue" He criticizes U.S.-led strikes in Syria, yet opens door to "a new atmosphere" with U.S. Cameron: Despite "severe disagreements," Iranians could help defeat ISIS Prime Minister: If they can help, "we should welcome their engagement" 

President Rouhani’s speech to UN General Assembly, 25 Sept. 2014; http://www.president.ir/en/81324          “I’m coming from a region of the world whose many parts are currently burning in fire of extremism and excess. … (The extremists) have a single goal: “the destruction of civilization, giving rise to Islamophobia and creating a fertile ground for further intervention of foreign forces in our region”. I deeply regret to say that terrorism has become globalized: “Today’s anti-Westernism is a reaction to yesterday’s racism. … To uproot extremism, we must spread justice and development and disallow the distortion of divine teachings to justify brutality and cruelty. ... I warn that if we do not muster all our strengths against extremism and violence today, and fail to entrust the job to the people in the region who can deliver, tomorrow the world will be safe for no one. … A final accord regarding Iran’s peaceful nuclear program can serve as the beginning of multilateral collaboration aimed at promoting security, peace and development in our region and beyond. … While some of the countries around Iran have fallen prey to war and turmoil, Iran remains secure, stable and calm.” 

Big powers aim to tackle any Iran bomb 'sneak-out' risk in nuclear talks, Fredrik Dahl, Reuters, Sept. 26, 2014;http://www.reuters.com/article/2014/09/26/us-iran-nuclear-risks-idUSKCN0HL0R320140926 “Under a "sneak-out" scenario, Western officials and experts say, Iran could build a uranium enrichment plant in secret to make bomb material unbeknownst to the U.N. nuclear watchdog, now empowered to visit only Tehran's declared nuclear sites. To counter this risk, they say, any breakthrough diplomatic settlement with Iran must grant the International Atomic Energy Agency (IAEA) broader surveillance powers in this vast country crisscrossed by remote, often inaccessible mountains and desert.”
Iran nuclear talks: why Tehran must be brought in from the cold - A deal with Iran is vital for the stability of the wider Middle East. The opportunity must be grasped, Christopher de Bellaigue, The Guardian, 2 October 2014;http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2014/oct/02/nuclear-talks-why-tehran-must-come-in-from-cold   “Iran could have a vital role in restoring stability throughout Mesopotamia and the Levant. … The new president has since scored notable successes – while keeping Khamenei on (the) side, despite the latter’s scepticism over nuclear talks. Rouhani has used the momentum generated by the interim deal – in addition to the modest sanctions relief that accompanied it – to cut inflation from 45% to 20% and stabilise the rial currency after it lost more than 80% of its value.   Human rights in Iran remain wretched(.) … A deal … would inaugurate a new relationship between the Islamic Republic and the west that could keep together a region that is, in every other particular, coming apart.” 

There’s Going To Be A Gold Rush If Sanctions On Iran Are Lifted, But America Could Miss Out, Ben Winsor, Businessinsider.com, Oct. 2, 2014; http://www.businessinsider.com/us-could-miss-out-on-irans-gold-rush-2014-10 “With US-Iranian nuclear negotiations reaching their deadline this November, businesses around the world are waiting in nervous anticipation to re-engage with one of the world’s largest economies. Even with heavy sanctions, Iran was the world's 21st largest economy two years ago. The country is rich in high-demand natural resources, has an educated workforce, and increasingly well-developed processing and manufacturing capabilities.”  

Explosion at Key Military Base in Iran Raises Questions About Sabotage, DAVID E. SANGER, New York Times, OCT. 9, 2014;http://www.nytimes.com/2014/10/03/opinion/roger-cohen-iran-the-thinkable-ally-ISIS.html?partner=rss&emc=rss&_r=0   “A spectacular explosion on Sunday (Oct. 5) night outside Tehran took place deep inside the Parchin military base, where Iran produces crucial elements of its missiles and other munitions, raising new questions about whether the blast was an accident or sabotage. … Even if the blast was an accident, the Iranians will almost certainly suspect foul play. The history of sabotage of Iranian nuclear and missile facilities, and assassinations of its leading scientists, is a long one. The United States played a central role in shipping faulty parts into Iran’s nuclear centrifuge facilities, and together the United States and Israel carried out a highly classified program(.) 

Iran: nuclear talks might be extended if November deadline missed, by Paris Hafezi, Reuters, Oct. 10, 2014;http://www.reuters.com/article/2014/10/10/us-iran-nuclear-talks-idUSKCN0HZ1BI20141010 “Talks over Iran's nuclear program might be extended if disagreement over remaining issues cannot be resolved by a November deadline, Iran's top negotiator was quoted as saying on Friday, in the first hint an extension was being contemplated. … Israel has repeatedly threatened to use military force against Iranian atomic sites if diplomacy fails to defuse the standoff.” 

In Vienna, U.S. and Iran Working to Beat the Clock, Reza Marashi, Huffington Post, Oct. 15, 2014, http://www.huffingtonpost.com/reza-marashi/in-vienna-us-and-iran-wor_b_5990212.html "[Russian foreign minister] Lavrov was telling the truth. The deal is 95 percent done, but the remaining 5 percent is the most difficult details(.) … As the negotiations reconvene, all eyes are on three unresolved issues. … The size and contours of Iran's enrichment program under a comprehensive deal remains the most challenging point of contention. … Centrifuge numbers are a dead end because they are largely arbitrary. …The U.S. and Iran also disagree over the duration of any comprehensive nuclear deal. …There are spoilers in the U.S. and Iran who will try to torpedo a deal, no matter the details.” 

The Last Step to an Iran Nuclear Deal, Greg Thielmann, Defense One, October 16, 2014, http://www.defenseone.com/ideas/2014/10/last-step-iran-nuclear-deal/96704/?&utm_term=0_547ee518ec-4f23690441-391762273 “As Iran and the “P5+1” countries resume talks in Vienna this week, the primary hurdle before their self-imposed Nov. 24 deadline for completing a final deal now is the wide gap between positions on the size and scope of Iran’s uranium enrichment capabilities. But the enrichment question should not detract from the importance of another important goal: verification in the comprehensive agreement." 

THERE'S ONLY ONE WAY TO BEAT ISIS: WORK WITH ASSAD AND IRAN, Leslie H. Gelb, Daily Beast, Oct. 18, 2014;http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2014/10/18/there-s-only-one-way-to-beat-isis-work-with-assad-and-iran.html   “** The Obama administration has pulled together a coalition as ineffectual as it is unwilling. It's time to join up with the forces, however unsavory, that can do the job. ** … In the short term the only way to check ISIS … is for the United States to work with Bashar Assad’s Syria, and with Iran. … Only Assad’s Syria and Iran can and would provide plausible ground forces (to fight ISIS) in short order. … Mr. Assad … hasn’t made the defeat of ISIS his top priority. … Russia, brimming with unhappy, armed Muslims, is even more threatened by the existence of ISIS than the United States.  Moscow could help facilitate cooperation between Syria, Iran and the U.S. … The Iranians have the military means and good reason to be effective partners(.)” 

Obama Sees an Iran Deal That Could Avoid Congress, David E. Sanger, New York Times, October 19, 2014;http://www.nytimes.com/2014/10/20/us/politics/obama-sees-an-iran-deal-that-could-avoid-congress-.html?partner=rss&emc=rss&smid=tw-nytimesworld&_r=1 “If agreement is reached, President Obama will do everything in his power to avoid letting Congress vote on it. … Even while negotiators argue over the number of centrifuges Iran would be allowed to spin and where inspectors could roam(.) … (T)he Iranians have signaled that they would accept, at least temporarily, a “suspension” of the stringent sanctions that have drastically cut their oil revenues and terminated their banking relationships with the West, according to American and Iranian officials. The Treasury Department, in a detailed study it declined to make public, has concluded Mr. Obama has the authority to suspend the vast majority of those sanctions without seeking a vote by Congress, officials say.” 

Iran offers 'compromises' in nuclear talks, West unmoved, Parisa Hafezi & Louis Charbonneau, Reuters, Oct. 21, 2014;http://www.reuters.com/article/2014/10/21/us-iran-nuclear-compromise-idUSKCN0IA0BW20141021 “Iran is pushing what it portrays as a new compromise proposal in nuclear talks, but Western negotiators say it offers no viable concessions, underscoring how far apart the two sides are as they enter crunch time before a Nov. 24 deadline. In the negotiations with six major powers, the Iranians say they are no longer demanding a total end to economic sanctions in return for curbing their nuclear program and would accept initially lifting just the latest, most damaging, sanctions. Western officials dismiss the proposal as nothing new and say the Iranians have always known that the sanctions could only end gradually - with each measure being suspended and later terminated only after Iranian compliance had been proven.”

Greening Our Home as a Way to Put Our Faith (and Love) into Action

The President made headlines today by offering  to cut US carbon emissions by 28% over the next decade. This sounds like a huge sacrifice, but it amounts to only 2.8% per year. If we meet this modest goal, we'd still be consuming twice as much energy per capita than most Europeans, and nearly ten as much as the Chinese! See http://shrinkthatfootprint.com/average-household-electricity-consumption.




I know from personal experience that we Americans can do a whole lot better without sacrificing our middle class life style, if we are willing to make the initial investment.

According to this chart, Jill and I were consuming around half as much electricity as the typical American home (5500 kwh), but we decided to do a lot better. During the past year, we invested in greening our home by purchasing solar panels, a gray water system, a Chevy Volt, and water-wise landscaping. It hasn't been cheap, but it hasn't been prohibitively expensive either. We'll pay off most of our investment in less than ten years and then start generating income from our green initiatives.

Our solar panels generate 5500 kw hours of electricity per year, which covers  90-100% of our need. It cost us $11,000 with rebates but will pay for itself in around 8 years if electricity rates continue to rise at 4% per year. We expect that the system will generate $2000+ year in "profits" after the pay-off period--which is a good return on investment. (The system is guaranteed for 20 years and will probably continue to function for 30 years or more.) With this system, our home energy use will be that of a typical person living in India or China.

Our Chevy Volt is a plug-in hybrid that will reduce our gas consumption by around 75%. It cost about the same as a comparable used car--around $22,000 with 24 k. It drives beautifully and we don't feel we have sacrificed comfort for fuel efficiency.

We hired a landscaper to remove our turf (and received $2 per sq ft from the city). We also installed gray water system recycles 10,000 gallons of water per year. We are hoping this system will reduce our water use by 40%. Turf removal and landscaping cost us around $4500, but nearly half of that cost will be reimbursed by the city and  we'll save $1000 per year in gardening and water bills. Our new water-wise yard looks beautiful and supports fruit trees as well as vegetables. This shows you don't have to sacrifice beauty or comfort or homegrown food  in order to be kind to our planet!

Being vegetarian reduces our food carbon footprint from two tons to one ton per year. And we enjoy our fruit and vegetable diet. It's fun to experiment with new recipes. like grilling veggies on the barbie!

Many of these green initiatives were possible in part because of good policy--city and federal rebates that made these investments more attractive financially. If the government subsidized green energy as much as it subsidizes fossil fuel, Americans could easily reduce their energy consumption by 80% in the next decade, and set an example for the rest of the world! This isn't unrealistic. Europeans already consume half as much energy per capita as Americans, and live a lifestyle comparable to our own. We need to pressure our legislators to get serious about addressing climate change. Scientists are telling us we need to reduce our carbon footprint by 80%, and we know it can be done. We've already done it!

What motivates Jill and me to green our lives? As the statement below explains, we are doing our best to put into practice Jesus' gospel of love--love for our neighbor, love for God's creation, love for life. We hope this love is contagious. We know this kind of love is needed to save our world.

Writing the Last Chapter of Your Life

[This post is a reflection that I gave at my Men's Group--Brothers on the Journey--at All Saints Church. I am deeply grateful to the men in this group for inspiring me to be more open and honest about my personal life, and to go deeper into my spiritual life.]

At age 65, it’s not unusual to think about the final chapter of one’s life. A retired pastor named  Bill told my men's group last week that he feels his life has consisted of three books—his life before his first marriage, his life during his first marriage, and his life during his second marriage. Since his wife has Alzheimer's and is not expected to live very much longer, he feels he is now approaching the end of his third book, and wonders if there will be another. I wondered the same thing five years ago when my wife Kathleen of blessed memory died of cancer.  We had made many beautiful plans to celebrate our 20^th wedding anniversary in the Quaker center where we met and fell in love, but God had other plans. We never know when one chapter will end, and if another chapter will begin.

I just received a tap card for seniors recently, and it said, or seemed to say: “Card holder expires June 6, 2024.” Actually it said that the card expires in 2024. But I couldn’t help wondering: will I outlast my tap card? I checked online and discovered that white men my age usually live to be around 80. That’s fifteen years from now. But of course I could be diagnosed with a fatal illness tomorrow and discover I have only a few months or weeks in which to write my last chapter.

I have good health and don’t feel old. Emotionally, I feel I am around 30 and look forward to a new life with my new wife Jill, who keeps me young. Yet I can’t help thinking about my life’s final chapter. When it comes to my life story, I don’t feel I am in complete control of the writing process. When I wrote a novel a few years ago, it seemed as if the characters in the novel had a life of their own and pretty much dictated what I wrote about them. This is how I feel about my life story. I am writing it, as best I can, but ultimately, it is being written by an Author much greater than myself. As a Christian, I believe I am not really the author, but the co-author of my life.

The psychologist Carl Jung believed that God writes our life story through dreams and archetypes, bringing to light the hidden parts of ourselves, the shadow side we often try to suppress. What we know and acknowledge about ourselves is only a small part of who we are. The inner journey is what helps us to know ourselves as whole people, not simply as holy people. As the Apostle Paul said, “Now we know through a dark mirror, but someday we will know face-to-face.” Knowing ourselves face-to-face can be very scary, and may take heroic effort, but it’s worth it. The more we truly know ourselves, the more we are able to love and live life fully.

I first started to think about the last chapter of my life in my late thirties when I faced a very serious career challenge. I needed to decide whether or not to become a youth director for the Quakers. I agonized and prayed about this decision, and found some help in a book by Stephen Covey called 7 Habits of Effective People.  One of my favorite parts of the book was called “Start with the end in mind.” He recommended that we write a mission statement for our lives. He also recommended that we imagine our own funeral and what is being said about us. He then went on to say that we should determine what it is we want people to say about us and begin living that way.

What do you want people to say about you when you die? That your mission was accomplished, that you were successful? Witty? Loving? Concerned about your family and friends? An avid golfer, fisherman, stamp collector, rock n roll fan, beer aficionado. Eager to save the world, promote peace? That you loved beauty, or God forbid, money?

Kathleen wearing a head scarf
given to her by a Muslim friend
during her cancer journey

When my wife Kathleen of blessed memory was diagnosed with cancer at age 57, one of the first things she did was to plan her memorial service. She wanted to live, and did everything she could to battle her cancer, but she also calmly prepared for her death. She signed a health directive making it clear when she wanted to be taken off life support. She reviewed her will. She wrote an autobiography to be read at her funeral. She chose the hymns, and even the pastor. She gave very specific instructions that helped to take many of the practical burdens off me when she passed. She even confided to a friend that she thought it would be a good idea for me to remarry after her death. She thought of everything! My wife taught me how to live like Christian, how to love like a Christian, and how to face life-threatening illness and death like a Christian. The final chapter of her life was in many ways the most beautiful and edifying.

My wife Kathleen was a Methodist pastor who had counseled many people who were on the verge of dying. She understood that for a Christian, dying is an opportunity to witness to our faith. This she did beautifully.

When I was in my thirties, and decided to become a Quaker, one of the reasons I chose this faith was because I admired Quaker elders. They seemed so cool—so full of life, so involved in good causes, and such good listeners. They became my role models. I wanted to be like them when I became old. Now I am now their age, I am grateful for all they taught me.

Among my Quaker mentors were a couple named Joe and Teresina Havens. Terry was a teacher of religion with the Ph.D. from Yale. Joe was a peace activist and a psychologist. After retirement, he and his wife started a retreat center near Amherst called Temenos. There they lived their Quaker faith by living simple lives and organizing workshops.

Teresina and Joe (the elderly couple in white in the middle)
 leading a sacred dance at Temenos

I loved Joe and his wife Terry. They were such amazing people. When I googled them, I found this picture of a sacred dance they are leading at Temenos. The spirit of the 60s lived on in this joyful, thoughtful, deeply spiritual couple!

When Terry died of cancer, Joe was suffering from Parkinson’s and he made a decision to die consciously. He didn’t take any drugs. He simply stopped eating. He said, “Many people in the world don’t have enough to eat and I have lived a full life and am willing to die.” During his final fast, he was surrounded with friends and family and he witnessed to his Buddhist Quaker faith by showing compassion and concern for all.

This led me to explore the practice of conscious dying, another way of saying: to die like a Christian, or like a Quaker. What would it look like to die as a Christian? In the past Quakers and others saw dying as an opportunity to leave behind a final message, one’s last statement of faith. George Fox, the founder of Quakerism, said: “All is well. The Seed of God reigns over all, and over death itself…” The final words of Timothy Leary, who decided to die consciously and publicly, were also memorable and true to the man he was: “Why not? Why not? Why not?”

There is a group called “Compassion and Choice” which is lobbying to provide people the opportunity to die with dignity, that is, to take medications to end their lives when it seems like life has become unendurably painful. My friend Ignacio Castuela, a Methodist pastor, is part of this group and was recently quoted in a column by Steve Lopez. Ignacio said he became an advocate for death with dignity decades ago when he was a pastor in Hollywood during the AIDS epidemic. “I was given the rare honor of being present when people made decisions to not go the way of their friends who had horrible deaths.” Instead, some held farewell parties in which their lives and values were celebrated.

I personally am not comfortable with the idea of taking active steps to end one’s life, but I respect those who make that decision if they follow their conscience in doing so. I firmly believe that people should have the opportunity to die with dignity, as God intended. When my mother had cancer and was given only days to live, the doctor asked me if I wanted him to use “heroic measures” to prolong my mother’s life a few days or weeks. I said no. As a result, I had the rare honor of being present as my mother died. It was a beautiful experience to be there as her spirit left her body and filled the room with light and love. I am grateful that my mother died with dignity.

Another person who helped me think about the last chapter of

my life was my role model and mentor Gene Hoffman. I began writing her biography 13 years ago, when I was 52 years old and she was pushing 80.

Gene was not only an activist and actress most of her life, she was also a mother who raised 6 kids. In the 1960s, she was acting in and directing plays. She was active in the anti-war movement. She started a counseling center. And then her life fell apart. Her husband left her. One of her sons was arrested on a drug charge. Her mother was diagnosed with Parkinson’s. And Gene had a nervous breakdown. She was 50 years old.

This became the turning point in her life. She spent three weeks in a mental institution and wrote a powerful book about her experience called "Inside the Glass Doors." She went to Pendle Hill, the Quaker center, where I met my wife Kathleen, and spent a year on a spiritual retreat. She traveled around the world to learn what people were doing to promote peace. She got a degree in pastoral counseling. And her whole attitude towards peace activism changed. She became aware of her inner conflicts and feelings, and helped activists to become aware of their inner struggles. She started a program called Compassionate Listening that influenced a Jewish woman named Leah Green to start an organization by the same name. Using Gene’s techniques, Leah Green taught Israelis and Palestinians how to hear each other stories and build trust and understanding. I took part in a Compassionate Listening delegation that went to Israel/Palestine in 2004 and it was a life-changing experience.

What inspired me about Gene was her enthusiasm for life, which never left her as she aged. At 80 she was still eager to listen and learn. Whenever I visited her, she would pepper me with questions. She wanted to know what I thought, what I felt, what mattered to me. She made me, and everything around her, feel important and loved. One of the last article she wrote was called “Aging: A Time of New Possibilities.” I’d like to share Gene’s final words:

I began to wonder what an elder was supposed to do. Visit friends and family? Read novels? Write my memoirs? A little of each is great—but that didn’t feel quite right to me. I began to explore being an elder…

I suddenly flashed on a question Jack Kornfield, Buddhist sage, had asked on one of his tapes. He said, more or less, “At the end of your life the only question worth asking is, “Did I love enough?” My internal answer was, “Of course I haven’t, and perhaps I never will. But I can begin trying. Whatever happens, it will keep me well occupied for the rest of my life.”

I have six grandchildren. I began looking at the ways I loved them. I felt I could love them better, and discovered my first step is to “let them be,” to accept them as they are, and with gratitude.

Another thing I’ve learned recently is that if someone offends or hurts me, I don’t need to make a scene. I’ve long thought violence springs from unhealed wounds. If I’m really trying to be a loving presence in others’ lives, and I can remember Laura Huxley’s phrase, ‘You are not the target,’ I’ll be healing myself and something may spill over.

Life is full of not-knowing-how-to-love and finding new ways to act, to be, to respond, to live. Since I think this may take several lifetimes, I can’t waste any more time. The assignment is before me: I’m here to focus on being a warm, loving human being…”

A couple of years after writing these words, Gene came down with Alzheimer’s and was placed in an Alzheimer’s facility. I visited her whenever I had a chance. Over the next few years I watched her mind slowly disintegrate. She lost the ability to remember and to speak but not the ability to love. Whenever I came to visit her in her last days, she would smile and I would take her hands and look into her beautiful blue eyes and tell her how much I loved her. We didn’t need words. Those moments were pure love.

What are my plans for the last chapter of my life? I plan to continue to live pretty much as I am living now. I plan to work for peace—both inner peace and peace in the world. I plan to enjoy my marriage to Jill and love her with all my heart. I plan to work for justice and to be concerned about the “least of my brothers and sisters.” I plan to do the inner work necessary to become a whole person, to learn how to love and live life fully. I plan to travel and see as much as the outer world as I can, as long as it doesn’t distract me from exploring the inner world, which is just as important. I plan to have fun, and enjoy life’s innocent pleasures—gardening, dancing, books, music, and silly jokes. When I die, I hope people who knew me will say: Anthony was a good friend. I hope that those who are hurting and homeless will say: Anthony was our friend. I cherish the words of Jesus in the Gospel of John, which is the basis of my Quaker faith: “If you love, you are not my students or servants. You are my friend.” Those are the words I’d like the final chapter of my life to embody.

Questions and quote to ponder:

1. What would you like people to say about you at your memorial service?
2. If you were to die tomorrow, what would you regret not having accomplished?
3. If you had to give your life story a title, what would it be? What would be the title of the final chapter or your life?
4. What qualities do you admire, and/or aspire to, in people who you consider elderly? What kind of elders influenced your life? How might you emulate them in some way?
5. What is the heritage you are passing on to your children and to humanity by way of a story?

"What is the greatest heritage we can leave? It is something that anyone can accomplish, regardless of wealth, power or education. This heritage is a story. A beautiful, inspiring story. The story of one's life, starting with some difficulty or hardship, recounting the pains and struggles, and ending with the conquest of the problem through belief, confidence and religion." – Chai Kyu-Cher, a Korean Quaker whose face was horribly disfigured in a car accident. He suffered horribly and his life nearly fell apart. Yet he was able to transform this tragic disfigurement into a "legacy," a gift he shares with audiences throughout Korea and the world, inspiring them to see their challenges in a new light. See: http://laquaker.blogspot.com/2013/10/the-man-who-lost-his-face-true-story.html

A Friendly Encounter with Representative Judy Chu

On Oct 9 I had an opportunity to lead a delegation to meet with Judy Chu, my Congressional Representative. I'm pleased to report this visit was very different from what happened last month in Senator Feinstein's office. Our encounter with Chu was friendly and in keeping with our Quaker beliefs and practices. 

I had been to Chu's office before with a delegation to talk about repealing the Authorization for the Use of Military Force (AUMF). At that time, we met with her aide Matthew Hovsepian, who was very friendly and sympathetic, but this time we met with Judy Chu face-to-face. I was pleased that Chu has voted three times to repeal the AUMF and hoped she would be open to seeking diplomatic ways to resolve the conflicts in the Middle East.

Our group consisted of Estee Chandler, radio commentator for KPFJ’s “Middle East in Focus” and founder of the LA chapter of Jewish Voice for Peace; Cody Lowry and his girlfriend Annie, and Madeline Schleimer, members of Orange Grove Meeting. Estee presented the views of Jewish Voice for Peace on Israel/Palestine. I provided the views of Friends Committee on National Legislation (fncl.org)  and Interfaith Communities United for Justice and Peace (icujp.org).

We followed the Quaker practice of beginning our meeting by thanking Judy for stands she took that we agree with. We especially appreciated her stand on immigration (sponsoring a bill to give free legal counseling to refugee children crossing the border), on repealing the AUMF, and on supporting vets. I told her about Quaker House in Fayetteville, NC, and how we Quakers are doing what we can to support vets when they have concerns of conscience, or when their rights are violated, or when they are suffering from domestic violence and abuse. We feel the best thing we can do to support our vets is to bring them home!

Judy was a good listener. Her face lit up when I told her I had crafted a statement about Israel/Palestine and the Middle East that Jews, Muslims and Christians at ICUJP had agreed upon. Knowing how difficult it is to achieve any kind of consensus on this region among people of different faiths, she smiled and began reading this document as soon as I handed it to her.

I did my homework and was able to ask about two bills she supported that we Quakers oppose. First, sending aid to Syrian rebels. Second, increasing sanctions against Iran. I asked her to explain her reasons for supporting these bills.

She told us she struggled over whether or not to send aid to Syrian rebels. She went to secret briefings and became convinced that such aid might work. She told us that the measure was coming up for review in December and she would be looking closely to see if this aid was helping

I told her I couldn’t see how such aid could help. We don’t know enough about the rebels, or even how such aid would be used.  Sending military aid to rebels during times of civil war seldom works, as a recent classified CIA study that was leaked to the press indicates. See http://www.slate.com/blogs/the_world_/2014/10/15/classified_cia_report_finds_that_arming_rebels_rarely_works_so_where_does.html 

A better approach would be to send humanitarian aid and to work for a diplomatic solution, bringing all the parties to the table (Iran, Russia, Syria, rebel groups, etc).

I also asked her why she supported more sanctions against Iran at a time when we were embarking on long overdue negotiations. Such sanctions could undermine these sensitive diplomatic efforts.

She said that she voted for the bill because she didn’t think it would pass, but it would send a message. She wants to be sure that Iran doesn’t get nuclear arms

I agreed with her that it is undesirable for Iran, or any nation in the Middle East, to have nuclear weapons. But I couldn’t see how imposing more sanctions, or even threatening to do so, could help. Negotiations worked to convince Assad to destroy his chemical weapons stockpile; we need to use diplomacy to convince Iran to give up its nuclear ambitions.

I told her I was especially concerned about this issue because it will be the focus on Quaker lobby day in November. I hoped to see her then.

All in all, It was a good meeting and I look forward to seeing Judy and her aids in the future. I feel we are building a good relationship with her and her staff that will bear good fruit.

Interfaith Communities United For Justice And Peace

 

817 W. 34^th Street, Los Angeles, CA 90089

www.icujp.org   www.facebook.com/ICUJP 213-748-1643

 

Religious Communities must stop blessing war and violence!

  

 

STATEMENT ON THE MIDDLE EAST AND ISRAEL/PALESTINE – September 2014

                                                                                                                       

 

As people of faith and conscience, we are appalled and saddened by the escalating violence in the Middle East. We are convinced that military force is not the answer. President Obama’s call for military intervention in the civil wars taking place in Iraq and Syria cannot be justified militarily or morally. We are deeply concerned that the President feels he has the authority, under the Authorization for the Use of Military Force, to engage in military interventions without consulting Congress. The AUMF must be repealed.

As we have seen repeatedly, violence begets more violence and our drones and bombing raids recruit more militants. A different approach is needed if we want different results. We need to work for political solutions through diplomacy and humanitarian aid and express genuine concern for the best interests of all of the people of this region.

We therefore call upon the United States:

·     To end arms shipments to the Middle East. US weaponry fuels violence and supports authoritarian regimes that do not represent the will of their people or promote democracy or a just peace.

·     To provide massive humanitarian efforts (implemented mainly by civilians, not by the military) to rebuild Gaza, Iraq, Afghanistan and other areas ravaged by US military interventions. We feel that the hundreds of billions of dollars spent on the failed “War on Terror” would have produced far better results if our resources had been used for community development and to alleviate poverty and disease.

·      To condemn human rights abuses by all countries in the Middle East, including our allies, and to support genuine democracy, especially nonviolent grassroots movements seeking to end oppression.

 

Israel/Palestine

 

We are especially concerned about the violence in Israel/Palestine because the US provides billions of dollars annually in aid to Israel, and because this area is considered sacred to Muslims, Christians, and Jews.

We are appalled by the thousands killed in the latest violence in Gaza, most of them civilians and children, as well as by massive destruction of homes, mosques, schools and hospitals. We equally grieve the deaths suffered in Israel from Hamas rockets.

We therefore call upon the United States:

·     To support the international commission of inquiry appointed by the United Nations to investigate possible human rights violations and war crimes committed by both sides during the recent conflict.

·     To condemn violence on both sides and to stop justifying Israel’s use of disproportionate force and killing of innocent civilians because of “its right to defend itself,” which leads only to an escalation of violence.

·     To demand that Israel immediately end its blockade and siege of Gaza.

·     To demand Hamas end its violence and dismantle its offensive arsenal.

·     To condemn extremism and demonization on both sides. Both sides have legitimate grievances, yet both sides have committed wrongs. The US needs to work with the UN and the international community to help redress grievances and resolve differences in a fair and impartial manner.

·     To encourage genuine peace talks between Israelis and Palestinians. If the Israeli government will not participate in talks with Hamas and the Palestinian Authority, then no further American aid of any sort should be provided to Israel.

·     To provide immediate humanitarian aid and supplies to Gaza. Our tax dollars have played a significant role in the destruction of Gaza; now our tax dollars must be used to rebuild Gaza and aid its civilian population.

·     To support the international consensus recognizing Palestine as a state, alongside Israel.

·     To end illegal settlements in occupied territories that make a two-state solution increasingly difficult if not impossible to implement.

·     To put pressure on both governments to guarantee equal human and civil rights for Palestinians and Israelis, as guaranteed by the UN Charter and Universal Declaration of Human Rights.

Resolving the conflict in Israel/Palestine, with equality and justice for all, is an important step towards peace in the Middle East.

'Seeing One's Life Whole": A Jungian Reflection on My Life

In my Stillpoint spiritual direction program I was  invited to become more self-aware by considering choices I made in responding to life experiences, using Jungian archetypes. It was one of the assignments in the Stillpoint Spiritual Direction program that I have found especially helpful and intriguing. (For more about spiritual direction and Stillpoint, see http://laquaker.blogspot.com/2014/05/are-you-interested-in-deepening-your_29.html).

You can do this assignment by looking at three or four of the key events on your timeline and determining which Jungian archetypes were most active and which ones could have been used will enlarge your Story.

According to Carl Jung, our lives are influenced by archetypes—images that represent different aspects of our psyche. These archetypes are innumerable but have often been divided into twelve major ones (creator, orphan, magician, innocent, lover, rebel, hero, ruler, jester, caregiver, sage, seeker/explorer.). You can learn more about these types at http://www.soulcraft.co/essays/the_12_common_archetypes.html You can also take an online test to determine which archetypes are currently dominant in your life:

http://helloquizzy.okcupid.com/tests/awakening-the-hero-within-hero-archetype-test-1 (I recommend purchasing this book if you want to go deeper into archetypal analysis.)

Each of these archetypes are present in all of us and became activated during different periods of our lives, depending on our temperament and needs. All archetypes have positive and negative aspects. The part of our psyche that we undervalue or repress is known as our shadow. When we recognize and acknowledge the shadow, the hidden and rejected parts of ourselves, some of the most important spiritual growth occurs. Remember, all archetypes are always available, held in potentiality. Once you identify the active and the untapped archetypes it is up to you to glean as much insight as you are comfortable doing. If there is resistance to the exploration, it might be helpful to investigate that.

Here are some questions for you to consider:

   -do I usually respond with the same archetypal energy?

   -how did the preference for that archetype arise?

   -what other archetypes could have been activated?

   -would using other archetypes have changed the outcome?

   -was the unused archetype shadow?  

   -if it is shadow, what is being denied? 

We are also invited to consider this saying by Jesus:
 

“If your eye is single, your whole body will be filled with light.” (Matt 6:22)


You may find it helpful to reflect on this passage and see what it means to you. I came up with the following response.

Jesus is describing how it feels when we look at the world non-dualistically, letting go of our judging mind (“judge not, lest ye be judged”).  In this non-dual, non-judgmental state of mind, one’s heart opens up, and one can breathe deeply and easily, as if breathing in God’s spirit and breathing out peace. One “sees” with one’s whole body, mind, and spirit—not just with the physical eye and the intellect. There is deep joy, peace, and clarity, even in the midst of painful times. It is as if the clouds part, and one sees the world in color, not simply in shades of gray.

Here's is my Jungian reflection on my life, my attempt to see with a single eye:

The first significant turning point in my spiritual life occurred in 1971 during my final year of college at Boston University. I was studying poetry with Anne Sexton, the Pulitzer-prize winning poet who wrote amazingly imaginative poems about her bouts with mental illness (despite her enormous talent and great success, she eventually committed suicide). I was editing the BU literary magazine and felt elated that my dream of becoming a writer seemed about to come true. Then I plunged into depression during my final semester. This dark night of the soul was exacerbated by drugs, alcohol, casual sex and financial insecurity. I dreamed of becoming a great writer like Robert Lowell or John Berryman or Ezra Pound, but in reality I was a poor struggling student working as a pot washer at Sears who barely had enough money to pay for food and rent. I had no idea what I was going to do with my life when I graduated. When I asked Anne Sexton, she replied: “Why not become a poet?” The idea was very appealing but I had no idea how to make this happen. A friend of mine bought a ticket on the Trans-Canadian Railroad and a light bulb went off in my head. That’s it! I decided to go on the road, like my hero Jack Kerouac, and write about it. Then, my father, who had been suffering from a protracted terminal illness, died in June, just as I was about to graduate. I went home to Princeton, NJ, for the funeral to take part in an event I had dreaded for 10 years. After the funeral, I left my mother and 10-year-old sister and went on my Canadian adventure. Along the way, I had a “road to Damascus” experience in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan. I went into a church and saw an open bible on the altar. I began to read it and my heart opened up and I began to cry tears of joy. I realized that this was not an ordinary book and Jesus wasn’t an ordinary man. I also realized that if these words were taken seriously, they would transform my life and revolutionize the world. Evangelicals would call this experience “coming to Christ,” but it was more as if Christ had come to me. I was utterly blown away. After this experience, I realized I wasn’t the center of the universe. There was indeed a Higher Power, a God, with whom I could have an inner dialogue. I began to pray and commune with this Higher Power, sometimes in silence, sometimes by seeking Divine guidance. It was the beginning of a vibrant new life.

The archetypes most active in my life during this time were the Creator and the Seeker. What helped me through this spiritual and emotional crisis was my creativity and my yearning to explore the world, including the world of religion. I avidly read books about Christianity, Taoism, Hinduism, Bahai and other faiths. I worked with an artist in Vancouver who was illustrating the I Ching, and did poetry readings and wrote for underground newspaper. It was such an exciting, life-affirming period I felt no need for drugs or alcohol. I was on a spiritual high. I hitchhiked across the country several times and had many adventures. It was the beginning of my spiritual liberation. “My heart leaped for joy,” as George Fox, founder of Quakerism, said when he had a similar experience of the Inward Christ.

My “shadow” was the caregiver and the orphan. Looking back, I realize that I utterly neglected my mother and sister and totally ignored the practical side of life. If I had done my duty as a son and stayed home and gotten a job, my mother would probably have been pleased but I wouldn’t have become the person I am today. This was a time of life when I needed to break free and find my true self. Yet I realize that what I did hurt my mother deeply and she didn’t forgive me until many years later.

The seeker and creator archetypes are still strong with me, but over the years I have learned to respond with other archetypes, as I will explain. How did my preference for creativity and seeking arise? Creativity was something that helped me to cope with a deprived childhood. My parents were both immigrants who were raised in poverty and never graduated from high school, and both suffered deprivation and trauma as children. They did their best to be good parents, but my mother was alternatively abusive and overly affectionate, and my father was often emotionally distant. I grew up relatively poor in the affluent town of Princeton (we had a modest home but no car, and never went on vacations to exotic places like many others in this wealthy community). My “escape” from the boredom of small-town life was my imagination. I wrote poetry and lived a rich imaginative life through voracious reading. I learned Latin and Greek so I could travel in time to the world of the ancients—the world of Homer, Plato, Socrates, Ovid, Virgil, Catullus, Petronius, Apuleius, etc. I also loved to explore history, politics, and the world of ideas. I became what Blake called a “mental traveler.” Influenced by Timothy Leary when he came to Princeton in my junior year of high school, I turned to LSD and “tripping”—another way of inner exploration. I also became a rebel—an archetype that was strong for many of us during the Psychedelic, Radically Rocking Sixties.

The next big turning point occurred when I became a Quaker in 1984. After my spiritual adventures, I returned to Princeton, married the daughter of a Presbyterian minister and settled down to become a teacher. I earned a Masters in education, and PhD in British literature, becoming the first and only one in my family to join the academic world. My dissertation advisor was Paul Fussell, an 18^th century scholar who became famous and won the National Book award for his book “The Great War and Modern Memory.” I got a plum teaching job at Carleton, a prestigious liberal arts college in Minnesota, and was on my way to fulfilling another dream—becoming a scholar—when my life fell apart. My marriage broke up and then I learned my mother was dying of emphysema, with the prognosis of only a year to live. I went back to Princeton to care for her and found I was not able to be of much help because of all my personal issues with her. I prayed for God’s help and was led to the Quaker meeting. There I found my spiritual home and a support group that helped me through this emotional and spiritual crisis. I began working for a magazine called “Fellowship in Prayer” and started another period of spiritual exploration, traveling all around the country visiting spiritual communities and leaders, and finally ending up in the Providence, RI, Zen Center, where I lived and practiced Zen for nine months.

This time I did not neglect my mother. I helped her through her crisis in numerous ways, and we had a good relationship during the final seven years of her life. We stopped quarrelling and learned to accept each other.  When I found my spiritual home among the Quakers, I also reconnected with my Inner Voice, my True Self,  which had come to me in Saskatoon. I felt free and fully alive again. I became involved with a fascinating Quaker project—editing a book of writings by Soviet and American writers—that gave me the opportunity to travel to the Soviet Union during the period of glasnost and perestroika. I had the opportunity to live at Pendle Hill, a Quaker center for study and contemplation near Philadelphia, and met my second wife Kathleen, a Methodist pastor.  I felt as if  I were re-born after my dark days as a self-serving academic. After years of inner conflict, I felt a sense of inner peace as a member of a peace church, and married to a peaceful wife who loved and practiced the contemplative life.

The archetypes that emerged during this period were caregiver, sage and seeker.  The caregiver part of me was very important since I had neglected that part of me during my previous spiritual revival. As a caregiver, I was able to heal my broken relationship with my mother and feel as if I were acting the part of a mature man, not simply a boyish adventurer/explorer. My “shadow” was still the orphan, but I was becoming a bit more practical. I helped my mother sell her bankrupt business and dilapidated old house and move into a condo she could afford with my sister. But I was still far from being very practical about money matters. I preferred to be an explorer and creator. I also began to become more of a sage as I deepened my practice of meditation. If I had focused more on my “orphan,” I would have tried to find a job that earned a decent salary but that has never been important to me.  I chose instead to follow my heart, which led me to the Quakers and to Kathleen and to life of spiritual abundance. I don’t regret I took the road less traveled.

The next big turning point in my spiritual life occurred when my wife Kathleen got cancer seven years ago, in 2007. Kathleen was my soul mate. We were married for twenty years, had a wonderful joint ministry, and were looking forward to spending the rest of our lives together. We decided to spend our twentieth wedding anniversary at Pendle Hill, the place where we met and fell in love. I quit my job as editor of a Quaker magazine, Kathleen got a leave of absence from the Methodist church, and we sold our home for a very good price. I had a scholarship to write a book while at Pendle Hill, and Kathleen enrolled in a spiritual direction program. Then we learned she had lymphoma, a form of cancer that killed her mother at the same age. For ten months, we went on a cancer journey together. At first, the prognosis was good and her oncologist was hopeful. “This is an easy form of cancer to cure,” he assured us. But some bits of cancer didn’t respond to chemo so Kathleen decided to have a stem cell transplant at the City of Hope. Unfortunately, she had a severe reaction to the transplant and died in a couple of weeks. This was devastating to me emotionally, but it was also a spiritual high point of my life. During our ten-month cancer journey, I learned how much I needed God and my faith communities to get through this crisis. Because of my work as an interfaith Quaker, we had the support of people of many faiths: Muslims, Jews, Buddhists as well as Methodists and Quakers. My love for Kathleen deepened as I did my best to be her caregiver.  Kathleen showed by her shining, peaceful example how to face life-threatening illness and death as a Christian—a lesson I will never forget. During this period I became “broken and tender” (to use an old Quaker phrase). Even though I didn’t have the opportunity to go to Pendle Hill, I was able to complete a good deal of the book I intended to write there, thanks to Kathleen’s encouragement. Because of my new-found empathy for people going through health crises, I started visiting folks in the hospital and eventually was asked to clerk the Pastoral Care committee of my Quaker meeting.

For two years, I lived my life as a single. After a year and a half, I began to feel the need to remarry and God led me to a wonderful Christian woman named Jill Shook. I met this kindred spirit at  the Palm Sunday Peace Parade in Pasadena and proposed to her three weeks later. I have begun an amazing new life with Jill, but Katheen’s spirit is still with me. One reason I felt led to embark on the Stillpoint program was to continue the work that Kathleen started but was unable to finish. I feel as if God is helping to complete Kathleen’s work through me. That is a great blessing.

The archetypes that emerged during this period were the caregiver, creator, lover and magician. Being a caregiver has now become an important part of my life since my new wife suffers from many illnesses and needs a lot of TLC. But the strongest archetypes are the magician, sage, and lover. Marrying at age 60, I feel as if I am 30 again. I have had to learn a whole new way of relating to a woman who is totally unique (like every woman), and it’s been very challenging. Therapy and counseling has helped us to weather the storms of our first few years of marriage, and our love feels very strong and secure. It feels almost miraculous to be Lover at this late stage of my life. A lover and a sage and a creator, and an elder—what a combo!

The magician part of me animates my work as a writer/peace activist/spiritual director. Through prayer and worship, I seek to cultivate the inner peace I need to do my peace activism. Therapy and spiritual direction have also helped me to work on the inner issues that sometimes block me from experiencing the Light, being honest with myself and others,  and expressing my creative self. The sage part of me is always seeking answers, seeking to figure out what’s genuine, real, and true. Thanks to the sage and the seeker I have come to see much more clearly the hidden parts of myself---the repressed traumas, the selfish habits, the anger and the fears that I have been reluctant to explore or even acknowledge. My shadow is the orphan part of myself. Through self-reflection I have come to realize this vulnerable part of me carries a lot of pain, but is very practical and necessary. I wouldn’t be in the good financial shape I’m in today if I had not been cautious and realistic and practical about financial matters—a  byproduct of my orphan archetype that often worries about the practical issues. My orphan self enables me to see the world as it is, and to appreciate those who are struggling simply to survive--those who are poor, homeless, marginalized. Although I was never as desperately poor as some of those I encounter in my work, there have been times I was so impoverished I had to panhandle and live on the street. Thanks to my orphan self, I have some sense of why St Francis extolled Lady Poverty and why Jesus said “Blessed are the poor in heart. “ Lady poverty and the orphan are great teachers.

I am grateful to God for giving me this opportunity to look at my life, and to see it whole: not only the achievements and high points, but also the failures, the brokenness, and the dark nights of the soul. I began with Jesus’s enigmatic saying: “If your eye is single, your whole body is filled with light.” I believe that at the end of our life, when we transition to the next stage of existence, whatever that might be, Jesus will lead us through our life, moment by moment. This will not be a divine final exam with right and wrong answers. Jesus, our advocate and friend, won’t judge us, but will ask us gently: “So, what did this experience teach you?” I think it’s healing and wise to begin this self-examination with Jesus before one dies, so that one can live more authentically and wholly. This is one of the goals of spiritual direction, as I understand it.